Christmas can be a difficult time of year for those who have lost a loved one. Families tend to come together during the holidays, making the absence of lost loved ones far more noticeable than at any other time. It can be difficult to know how to face Christmas after losing a loved one, and how your grief is going to affect you.
Trying to find a way to involve your lost loved one in the festivities can help to relieve the grief caused by their absence. You could do this by playing a carol you know they loved, hanging their favourite bauble on the tree, or lighting a candle for them.
Acknowledge the absence of your loved one by reminiscing about them with friends and family. Sharing memories and stories about them will help you feel closer to them, and you’ll feel less alone knowing other friends and family members miss them too.
If you feel like you can’t face a “normal” Christmas, have a think about what you would like to do instead. It’s completely understandable that you might not want a traditional Christmas the first time after losing a lost loved one, and it’s important not to feel guilty for changing plans.
A lot of people feel guilty for having fun after a loved one has passed away, but it’s important to remember that grieving doesn’t mean you have to be sad all of the time. You can still enjoy Christmas and take part in the festivities, and shouldn’t feel guilty for doing so.
It’s hard to keep a routine at Christmas when there’s so much going on, but it’s a good idea to keep to your routine where possible, even if it’s just making sure you go on your daily walk. This will help you to feel grounded during the festive season.
If you’re struggling, reach out to your family and friends and let them know so they can help you. If you feel like you can’t speak to your loved ones, you could go to your GP, or speak to someone at a bereavement service.
The most important thing to remember is that it is fine for you to feel your grief. Many people think that at Christmas you have to be happy, but that can make it all the more difficult if you’re grieving. Allow yourself the chance to grieve, and remember it’s OK to not be OK. If you need a minute away from the festivities, then take it.
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